Lies We Believe

“I will never do that again,” “I will never over eat like that,” “I will never spend that much money again”

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We vow to ourselves that we won’t do certain behaviors and actions ever again. We promise ourselves over and over again that we won’t do it, only to find ourselves doing it again. Where do those lies come from? Sometimes these lies come from us, other people’s values and influences, or by Satan himself.

Satan is always trying to devalue us, and to make us think that God is not for us. He wants us to believe a lie about God and about ourselves. He tells us a lie, and makes it seem that it is true. When we buy into it, we own the lie as if this is what we truly believe, or accept as the truth about us and our circumstances.

Lies We Hear 

Growing up as a child, we are often influenced by our families, those in authority and friends who spoke both truth and lies into our life that we assumed as facts.

  • “You are stupid, you will never be as good as your sister or brother.”
  • “Strong boys never cry.”
  • “You are too fat.”
  • “You’re not very good looking.”

When we began to take them into our soul, we begin to list them as facts, and act as if this is really true about ourselves.

Lies Man Tell

  • “It’s all my bosses’ fault why I am not promoted”
  • “I lost my job because of the economic recession.”
  • “I lost job because my bosses’ friend took the job away from me.”
  • “I was not promoted because I didn’t get the support from my wife at home when I needed it most.”

Man lies about his work because he derives his identity from his work. God gave man work before He gave him a woman.

Lies Woman Tell

  • “I am too fat. I can’t compete with younger and beautiful woman.”
  • “I am not worth being loved, so I stayed in this abusive relationship because this is the best I can do.”
  • “He just trying to encourage me when he tells me that I am ugly and fat.”

Woman lies about how she feels about her relationships, because a woman was given to the man to be a helpmate. She finds her fulfillment in a home and being a helpmate.

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Who We Really Are

God wants us to go to the Word and find out who we really are. We are the most valuable being in the universe because it cost God, the Father, His Son, and it cost Jesus, His life for us. When we replace the lie with the truth of God’s word, we will gain freedom to speak the truth about who we are.

For a long time, I felt that God favored other people instead of me. Their lives looked better than mine. They had better jobs and better relationships. Therefore, I believed that God doesn’t love me the same way He loved others.

I knew this wasn’t right and that was the lie. As I began questioning God, new thoughts rose up in my spirit.

God is my greatest cheerleader, and He felt an extravagant love for me. There was nothing He wouldn’t do for me.

I replaced the negative thoughts with the truth, and this has brought such joy to my heart.

“If anyone loves me, he will keep my word, and my Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him.” John 14:23, ESV

Replace the lies about yourself with the truth of God’s Word. When we learn to speak God’s Word about ourselves, we will be truthful to ourselves.

Father, I ask You to free me from all the lies I believed about myself. Unveil Your truth into my being so that I may see what You see about me and who I am. Free me from all the lies I believed from my childhood, and from other people’s influence. I will not be controlled by the lies of others, because I choose God’s freedom and to walk in truth. Thank You for freeing me from false identity, fear, confusion, and Satan’s deception.

In Jesus’ Name. Amen.


When You Are Rejected

I was passed over for a role in a school play. My teacher gave it to her favorite student. I was deeply hurt. I asked, “What was wrong with me?”

What does rejection look like? It’s like having a hole in your bucket.

Someone's going to get a wet surprise.

Someone’s going to get a wet surprise. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

There’s song that goes, “There’s a hole in my bucket, dear Henry, dear Henry. Well then, fix it dear Liza, dear Liza.”

Nothing can stay in a bucket with a hole.

Rejection can be defined as “To refuse or accept a person. Throw away, discard, or to cast out. To refuse or unsatisfactory.”

When we are rejected, we build walls around ourselves to protect ourselves. We don’t want people to see our insecurity, loneliness, self-pity, or vanity. We project a negative self-image upon ourselves; and become critical and reject ourselves and others. This cycle of rejection undercuts our relationships with God and others.

No matter how much love you receive, you still do not feel loved. It’s like being in a love vacuum, because you cannot retain the love you receive. Thus, to compensate for feeling unloved, we fill our lives with things such as possessions, recognition, careers, etc. Some of us go the negative route of becoming pleasure and addiction seeking.

When my husband left me, I felt devasted. I felt insecure and less than. I felt like a failure and I had disappointed God.

Being rejected breaks down your value. I would often second guess myself. I went through the process of inner healing, because only God can heal those hurts and seal up the hole in bucket. He gave me stability and a sense of value in my life. Nothing could fill up that hole, only a revelation of God and how much I meant to Him.

Sometimes, as a woman, we feel that marriage is a completion of us, but God reminded me that I am only complete in Him. Marriage does not define my womanhood. I am a woman by God’s design. He sealed that bucket when I became a daughter of the King.